My Vagina & I are so Pissed!

Back when I used Livejournal I would update that thing multiple times a day but now that I have this, I also have Twitter & Facebook so it's like, how much of me does the internet need? (don't answer that, just keep reading). The truth is, the internet could probably do with a lot less of me, maybe we all could but I've never been one to stay quiet for too long. So this post is going to be a bunch of complaining because I've been up for hours & I have had a lot of coffee. (feel free to stop reading)

Booking shows as a female promoter feels like a losing battle.

What does this mean? It means, for some reason the fact that I'm a broad means dudes in bands don't take me seriously. It means that when they show up to the record store to play a show, even though they have been communicating with me the entire time leading up to that very moment, they do not approach me but instead make a bee-line for my boss Blair, a dude. Maybe I'm just being uppity? Maybe they just walk directly to whomever they see first? Maybe. But probably not. Recently we had a bunch of bands play & the drummer of one band asked me a question. I gave him an answer. It was not the answer they wanted & the dude says to me (& I quote) "I'll just go ask Blair".

Yo, for real. This happened. My vagina & I were pissed.

I guess it wouldn't be such a big deal if this was like, the nineteen fifties & that was my only example of blatant sexism I had experienced during the last year of booking shows (it's the only example I'm throwing out here because really, I don't want to complain all day. I love booking shows. I love my record store & I'm not perfect). Anyway, it's almost 2012 & I've been in the "scene" longer than you. You want to see my credentials? How about you just stop disrespecting women in general & get with the program? Your sexism is so subtle, maybe you don't even notice it? But I do because I deal with it constantly. Heck, I'm an angry old riot grrrl, sure. But I'm also a pretty smart lady who is really stoked on your band, worked pretty hard to get this show together & you're just ruining it by being some sort of ignorant jerk. Misogyny is so totally over, so do me a favor ok? When you get to the record store & you're ready to rock just don't be a jerk. Instead be aware of the things you do & say when dealing with women because it'll make my vagina happy & your momma proud.